When Life Smashes You Down Get Back Up
Life isn’t always going to be kind to you. Things will go wrong from time to time. And when they do, you may step back and wonder what the point of it all is.
The trick here is to note that nobody is 100 percent successful in everything they do. Everyone experiences problems and setbacks along the way, including those who go all the way to the top.
Remember the genius you knew in high school? What are they doing now? Chances are, they faced some problems along the way, and their lives aren’t going in the direction they hoped.
The same goes for the jock. They might have been popular in senior high, but today they could be seriously overweight, unemployed, or drinking too much.
Winners in life aren’t the people who avoid failure. Instead, they’re the individuals who keep getting back up, no matter what life throws at them. They understand that as long as they are alive, they’re in the game and there are still opportunities to succeed.
Their success entirely comes down to their attitude in life. They want to win, and they’re not afraid to work hard to get there.
If you’ve been through a rough patch in your life, this post explores what to do. We show you how you can turn your proverbial “winters” where everything seems to be going wrong into new opportunities. You’ll see how endings can often become beautiful new beginnings.
Take A Quick Break From Life
When life smashes you down in some unexpected way, taking a break can be helpful. Going somewhere and spending a week by yourself gives you breathing space to reevaluate and set a new direction for yourself.
It’s also an important act of self-kindness. When you practice self-love, you become less prone to self-attack which can make the situation worse.
Taking time off lets you experience a new direction in life. There’s often a reason why things happen the way they do which only becomes obvious many years later when you step back and take stock.
Don’t Overthink
Rumination is probably modern humanity’s greatest enemy. Instead of living in the real world and accepting it for what it is, we dwell in our minds, racked by our uncontrollable thoughts.
If you have an overthinking problem, deal with it using age-old techniques, such as yoga or meditation. These practices help to silence the mind and let you experience a type of raw consciousness most people have now lost. The more you can abandon your ego, the more pleasure, and love you will experience in your life, regardless of your personal circumstances.
Learn To Use The Lows To Evolve
Being thrown in jail and looking for cheap bail bonds to bust you out is a low point in most people’s lives. However, it is also an opportunity to learn and evolve.
If you find yourself in a position you don’t want to be in life, take that as an opportunity to move forward. Look at how you might change your life and push in a different direction as a result of some of the things that have happened to you.
Everyone makes mistakes in life, but the wise learn from them. After you’ve been through a rough patch, look back and think carefully about what you could have done differently. Are there opportunities to grow from your struggles?
Have A Sense Of Humor
Life can be downright funny sometimes, even in seemingly dark situations. Being able to look at the events of your life and just laugh at them helps a great deal when processing what’s happened to you, and what’s gone wrong. Sometimes when chaos reigns, there is nothing left to do but see the cosmic humor in the situation.
Humor immediately lightens the mood and helps you regain your focus. You stop wallowing in what’s happened to you and move forward with your life decisively. You don’t sweat the small stuff anymore. And you realize that everything is “small stuff,” a key insight into dealing with trauma and coping with terrible situations.
Get A Fresh Perspective
When bad things happen to you, you can sometimes get the impression that the world is out to get you. As such, you start behaving more fatalistically in every area of your life, believing that it is only a matter of time before it all goes catastrophically wrong.
The trick here is to realize that life isn’t just pure destruction and chaos. Things can go right for you, and if you employ “right action,” you have just as much chance of success as anyone else.
Gaining a fresh perspective is all about avoiding the temptation to see the world through the lens of the bad things that happened to you. As long as you do the right things in your life, karma won’t keep biting at your heels.
Pity Those Who Brought You Down
It’s easy to feel hatred towards the people who tried to bring you down, but pity is actually the better emotional response. Their lashing out is coming from a place of pain and fear. They cling so strongly to life that their only option is to hurt you.
Once you understand this, it is easy to see your enemies for who they are. Fundamentally, they are often weak people. Strong people don’t experience hatred, grudges, or the desire to hurt others.
Be Confident In Yourself
Getting back up after life hurts you can feel cocky. But, actually, it’s a sign of confidence – and that’s a good thing. Once you understand your true power, you know that nothing can stop you or get in the way of your success.
Having this core belief changes how you live your life. Fear of failure virtually disappears and you find yourself trusting in your inner strength to do the things you want to do.
Once you have that fierce sense of power inside, the world suddenly becomes something you play with. Letting go of your ego opens up incredible opportunities.
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