How To Keep The Spark Alive In Your Relationship
Let’s face it, the beginning of the relationship is usually the easy bit. You feel butterflies when you are anticipating seeing your other half, you are still learning lots about each other and never run out of things to talk about. You don’t have to worry about any of the boring or stressful things such as money, work and tidying the house. Once you have been together for a few years you can find that you easily settle into a routine and don’t have as much fun together. Where you used to make a real effort, you are now super comfortable. This is a good thing but doesn’t mean you can’t put that extra effort in once in a while. It might have been a long time since you have got dressed up, put on a nice shirt or a dress and done your hair just for the benefit of your other half. Where you used to go out a lot, you are now happy just sitting in front of the TV watching your favorite film. Again, this is great, but not necessarily all the time. It might be that you are bickering now more than you used to, or it could be that you just don’t have that much to say to each other. Whatever it is, you might be wondering just how you can get the spark back in your relationship. Otherwise before you know it things can slide further and further, you find you aren’t happy and one or both of you are looking to file Grounds for Divorce! But that doesn’t need to happen of course. Here are some top ways to keep the spark alive in your relationship and ensure you are both as happy as possible…
- Organize regular date nights
Try and get regular date nights scheduled in the diary. This could be once a week, once every other week or once a month. You just need to find what works for you. By regularly making this time for yourselves you will get a chance to dress up and spend quality time together. You need time to be you and not the you that is stressed and just got in from work or that looks after the kids and cleans the house all day. Regular dates give you a chance to reconnect, catch up properly and pay undivided attention to each other. You will find that you will look forward to these each time and feel much more connected to each other once you get home.
- Compliment them regularly
We are all guilty of forgetting to complement our partners as much as we should. While you might shout a quick “love you” as you leave the house for work in the morning, think about when the last time was that you said it and really meant it. Be sure to tell them you are grateful for everything they do for you and what you love about them. This will help to boost their self-esteem and make them much happier, which in turn will make you feel happier too. When you’ve been together for a while it’s easy to take each other for granted but this can help to avoid this.
- Organize little surprises for them
This doesn’t have to be anything extravagant but is just a good way to show your other half how much you care. It could be that you make them their lunch for the next day for work, take the bins out, or buy them a surprise piece of jewelry. Whatever it is, it is a different way of saying how much you love and appreciate them and is sure to go down well. Why not write them a love note or send them a nice text? Or you could arrange a surprise dinner at home. There are many things you can do that will be a nice surprise and help to keep the spark alive.
These are just a few things that you can do in order to keep the spark alive. Being in a relationship is a wonderful thing but it is also hard work. While the movies might have you believe it is all smooth sailing, that is far from the truth. It requires effort and determination to get through the good, the bad and the stressful. Just remember why you got together in the first place and try not to get too het up on the small stuff. What are some of your top tips for keeping the spark alive?
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